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It’s so hard to say good bye…It’s so hard to even accept it. This is probably the hardest thing I’ve done in a very long time, I can’t even remember when was the last time I felt this much pain. … Continue reading

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It’s so hard to say good bye…It’s so hard to even accept it.

This is probably the hardest thing I’ve done in a very long time, I can’t even remember when was the last time I felt this much pain.

IMG_2740Even as I write this words, it feels like a really bad dream, and deep down I wish that it was.

For the people that know me, or have heard of me, they know I always say I had two kids, my boy that is my universe and  a daughter.  My daughter was the most beautiful chocolate princess and she had four legs and a lot of fur. Sadly I had to say was since she passed away last night.

So many people think of this as crazy, a dog is a dog, but she never was one, she didn’t know she wasn’t human, I always treater her as my baby.

She wore a seatbelt in the car.  She actually waited for me to fasten it, she got tucked in bed every night, she slept with her toys, that if they were not by her side I would promptly bring to her.

She had weight issues, that we kept on talking about with her doctor at Banfield, we did Thyroid test, they always came back “normal”, she will get tired walking, had issues with other dogs, but they kept on telling me all her blood work was normal.

Finally earlier this year I switch my Banfield locations and the new doctor asked me why we haven’t checked her thyroid, like I didn’t care for her health.  All I had to say was check her records, we’ve done it several times and all I got was her being referred to a dog behavior specialist so that it would be easier for us to walk her.

She saw the results were not normal, even her Cholesterol was high!

We did the test again, and got her on thyroid medication… In no time she had energy, was feeling better, her hair was again soft, we couldn’t be happier.

My other child left for college a couple of weeks ago, she usually will get sad, eat less, but then she’ll bounce back.

Around a week ago, she vomit, then she was fine, it was at night, so I would sleep with her, thats what you do with your kids, right?

Last Saturday night I got really sad news, one of my cousins had died, I was very sad, and as usual she got quiet when I was sad, but then Sunday, she looked lethargic, and was refusing food completely, this was unusual, she wasn’t eating much, and then she was now vomiting.

Monday Morning I took her as an emergency to her doctor at Banfield, they did blood work and diagnosed Pancreatitis, that was serious! then she mention that her bilirubin was high and it could be cancer, that was devastating! The doctor did X-rays, bloodwort and gave us a reserved diagnosis.   I couldn’t bring my self to leave, so I sat for a couple of hours in the bookstore that has a cafe next to the petstmart, then asked again how she was feeling, they said she was better but might need to be transferred somewhere else, regardless since they close at 7 we needed to pick her up at 6:30, take her to an overnight place and then bring her in the morning.

When we went to pick her up the doctor told us that she needed to be on special food for the rest of her life, and was going to need extra care, but she would be able to live the rest of a normal life.

At this point we decided to upgrade the medical plan she had been on to the “best one”, since it would make sense with all the extra things she was going to need.   This “saved us” $200 of the $600 and some we had to pay, the new plan covered the X’rays.

She mentioned that if she kept on refusing to eat or if she vomited we should take her to the overnight care place, she said they tried to feed her, but she refused food.  So knowing her, she wouldn’t get food from strangers, we agreed to take her home, try to feed her and if she didn’t eat or if she had vomit again we would take her to the overnight care place she had referred us to.  So we did as she said, got her the I/d medicated food and came home.

She refused to eat, we even got her a new stuffed animal that were here favorite toys, she barely looked at it.

We knew that wasn’t normal, so we took her to the place the doctor had told us, to where she had previously call to tell them she was coming.

Leaving her overnight was beyond heart breaking, we brought her elephant that was her favorite sleep companion, we called close to midnight and where told she was just sad, crying a little, but that she felt better when she got her elephant, that had pooped a little and it seemed to be painful, and she needed to be picked up at 7:45 to be brought back to Banfield.

In the morning when I went to pick her up I asked if she had eaten to what  the doctor was shocked and not very happy, she explained than when a dog had pancreatitis the were not supposed to be fed, she said that we should request an ultrasound to make sure the gallbladder was working and if not that she needed emergency surgery.

When I dropped her at Banfield I requested no more attempts to feed her and told them what the doctor said, this was by 8:10 in the morning, but the doctor didn’t come in until 9.

I waited for the doctor to call, but when it was 9:31, I couldn’t wait, I called.

I spoke with the doctor for 6 min according to my phone records, I told her about the food and she called the other doctor “old school” and that the ultrasound was not necessary since she was improving.

I called back at 12:35 and was told our princess could come home! she might be needed to come back the next day for more fluids and meds, but she could come home for the night, so I was happy.

I tried to do everything for work so that I could stay up all night if needed.

At 3:45 the doctor called me to say she was bleeding, that they couldn’t stop it, that it was most likely internal bleeding and she was going into something that she couldn’t coagulate and they couldn’t care for her, that we needed to come get her right away and take her to an emergency place, I asked her to call my spouse, I couldn’t process what she was saying, what the hell had happened, only 3 hours and 15 min before she was coming home!!!

We rushed back to the banfield, tried to talk to her, I asked her if they knew what was happening, now she mentioned the need for the ultrasound that the other doctor had said since the night before, the one she didn’t need because she was getting better, the one she couldn’t have done because she didn’t have the equipment!!! That she also forgot to mention, now they couldn’t care for her, they were not equipped for it.

On our way out she had to urinate, her urine was red, all red!!! the answer from the doctor…. You better rush to the place I referred you too, this was a new place, we didn’t know, it was rush hour, and I had my baby that now could barely hold her self, she was on my legs and there was nothing we could do but pray that we could get there faster.  I don’t think it took more than 15 min, but they felt so long. We got to this place, and she was immediately taken for examination.

When the doctor came to see us, his face said it all… She wasn’t doing well.

We asked for the ultrasound, and they had the equipment, but not the person specialized, they had left for the day, he said that if we could have come during the day that would have been done, now it had to wait till the morning.  He checked her chest, asked about heart issues, her heart wasn’t doing well, her breathing was labored, and she was in enormous amounts of pain.

Once again, she is not a dog in my eyes, she is my baby! and she was in excruciating pain.

He did an emergency ultrasound that says if she had “free blood” as internal bleeding, but could’t be precise since he wasn’t a specialist, in that non specialized ultrasound he found a mass on her liver, that off course needed to be sent to another specialist, and then they needed to run other tests and he just kept on going, that most likely this was something that was happening from before.  Just like her Thyroid, they didn’t even look at her tests.

Like on our last 3 visits in the past two days they came with a bill, told us that they would do a coagulation test during the night to see if that was working and then in the morning when the specialist came they would do that test that we came for.

I was upset! we were send to another place that could not do anything of what she needed, not for another 12 hours! why was she pushing for us to rush here! they were on the same place! My baby was slowly dying and there wasn’t anything to be done!

I asked him, point blank to be honest, if she was going to get better, if she was going to be kept in a cage alone for nothing, if we should think she would eventually come home.

What  would he do if it was his dog?

He couldn’t say anything, he knew she had missed the opportunity to get better by now.  All we would be doing was just more poking, more drugs and more pain.

I asked a family friend that is a Vet, he told me it didn’t look good, and there wasn’t much hope.

Now her belly was yellow, the inside of her ears was yellow, her eyes … were yellow and filled with pain.

I had to make a decision, and believe me this is the hardest think I’ve done in my entire life.

We could keep on postponing it or let her go… This guy couldn’t bring himself to give us hope.

There was none, she was brought back to us, they gave her more pain killers, and even like that she was in pain.

I decided to let her go. The doctor even said that everyone that was on the back (treatment area) would have decided the same.

My Baby was gone in a minute, she was gone before the injection was finished, she rest peacefully on her elephant, and she was no more.

I can’t explain this pain, I can’t explain that I couldn’t breathe, my spouse and I were breaking in pieces and there was a void that I still don’t know how to fix.

My son had to say goodbye to his sister thru a video call, and yes she  was my daughter. She is and will always be my baby.

Today I called banfield to cancel her medical care, and was told that regardless I have to keep on paying every month for a year, since we “upgraded” on Monday night.

I went today to get her records, and was … I don’t know the proper word to use here, upset, shocked, mad, amazed… Feel free to pick and choose what would fit here. to see the notes.

From last night:

The doctor that put her down, the one who told me it was the right decision, that anyone working there would have done the same, supposedly call the doctor from Banfield and told her that she could have done well and possibly recovered, and off course I was “scattered brained” and emotional… I wonder why.

I still can’t understand how she was better and could come home at 12 and then at almost 4 she was dying.

Now the cherry on top.

In their notes it says that hey call my spouse at 9:37 am, right after she hanged up with me?, and they added that they had extensively talked to him about the ultrasound that I had asked for, that they had said that we could do extensive hospitalization or euthanize.

There are no records of any of my calls, just my phone records that I have saved already.

When we walked out that the doctor saw the blood in the urine, all she said was that we needed to fly to the emergency place.

Now in her records it says that she offered to euthanize.

All of this is beyond painful, now I am sure that there were so many opportunities to help my baby, that Banfield is a place that doesn’t care about anything beyond making money, that their vets are there to see numbers not to offer a service.

Nothing will bring her back to me, nothing will fill this void, nothing, absolutely can replace her.

I just lost a child and I also have to deal with a company that is nothing more than a bad service with high fees.

Please if you love and care about your four legged kids, whether you call them dog, cat, pet.. Don’t bring them to this place! Banfield doesn’t care about their health or wellbeing, at the end of the day, for them is just a business transaction.

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Gay People Are NOT Normal  http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/gay-people-not-normal/ http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/gay-people-not-normal/#comments Thu, 19 Feb 2015 18:45:16 +0000 http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/?p=720 #followform { padding-top:5px; text-align:left; }

After seeing in the news about my country of Origen, where sadly denied the option for homosexual couples to adopt, it made me think.  Specially after noticing that people I consider my friends, that at some point I consider them … Continue reading

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Dreams_by_whisperfallAfter seeing in the news about my country of Origen, where sadly denied the option for homosexual couples to adopt, it made me think.  Specially after noticing that people I consider my friends, that at some point I consider them like my family, were promoting this decision to deny a home to thousands of kids, on the idea that growing up in a house with a homosexual couple was bad.

Off course, anyone that knows me, can tell you that I am not very good at keeping my opinions to my self, specially when are things that promote hate, prejudice, and even more if they are based on retrograde ideas, and things without fundament.

  1. Main reason, and I know anyone that has been to a gay community, or has even read magazines will agree.  Most of them are freaking good looking! Not just handsome, cute, easy on the eyes… They are FREAKING GOOD LOOKING! So, come on! This isn’t normal!
  2. Since being good looking isn’t enough, they are stylish as heck! They always look like they just came out of having their hair done and their clothes look like they just came from the dry cleaners. This isn’t natural! I have to really put in an effort to look “decent”. Can anyone really tell me that this is normal? Off course not!
  3. Perfectly decorated homes! Most people I know have to work on this, some just give up and hire an interior decorator if they can afford it, or if you are like me, as long as it works for my family and my needs, it’s ok.  See this isn’t a natural thing for most of us… Another point, on they are not normal.
  4. They can be supportive, honest and good friends all the time! Really? Who does that? Yes, I know you have problems, so do I! I can’t barely deal with mine, why on earth would I want to help you with yours? See, that’s not normal, or what about actually telling your friend that their favorite dress makes them look fat and short? Most friends I know would let me walk out of the house looking like a circus tent!
  5. Being successful despite all the hate, misunderstanding, awful comments, and all the nasty things that are said, not to mention all the derogatory words used to refer to their sexual preferences or even just them.   And just in case, Ricky Martin, Ellen DeGeneres, Bertrand Delanoe, Sir Elton John, Tim Cook, Graham Norton, Martina Navratilova, Anderson Cooper, Neil Patrick Harris, Lord John Browne, just to mention a couple of people that can be consider successful are gay. In case there are still people thinking that homosexuals can’t be successful. So again, overcoming all this criticism being expose to public opinions and being very successful, can’t be normal!
  6. Having happy homes! It’s been a while since it has been known that gay people (funny… Gay actually means happy, LOL) can’t possibly have a happy home, you know since this is reserved for a man and a woman, so people that are gay and have happy homes are defying the laws of nature, so then again… NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!!

I am sure that I can list other things to prove my point, but this should suffice for all my homophobic “friends” and accountancies, who are so openly begging to stop this madness of offering a loving homes to kids, God forbid them to be surrounded by this people that we already stablished are not normal, they might love them, raised them to be happy, secure and successful.

It definitely makes more sense to teach them to hate something they can’t understand, to make them believe that having a different sexual preference is a “condition” that can and should be corrected.  That having them live in orphanage, the street, to jump from foster home to foster home is a much better idea, I am sure if you ask any of this kids if they want to be adopted by a gay couple will run screaming and begging to not be taken to a home, where they will be cared and loved.

I don’t expect anyone to just accept anything without questioning, what makes me upset is people that have the capacity and option to use their heads, choose not to do so, and to top it off promote this kind of behavior.  I don’t think we are in a time to take anything literal, I am sure we are in a time that we can’t afford the luxury of promoting more hate, more intolerance, more closed minded people and their believes.  Times change, people change, people paid for this changes!

As I mention in a comment, just a couple of years having interracial kids was an obscene idea, it was sinful and just plain and simply horrendous.  Having a white person share the swimming pool with a black one was “Nasty,” and all because some idiot came up with this notion and the rest of the people just accepted it.

Its time to grow, to prioritize what really matters! Ok, you are not entirely comfortable with a homosexual couple? That’s ok, but, does it make you that uncomfortable that promoting having kids without a home is more important than giving them a chance? Nobody can tell for sure if they will adapt better to a heterosexual couple, nobody knows if some of this kids are gay (yes, you are born gay, you don’t turn gay), maybe they are adopted into an abusive heterosexual home, no body knows.  But denying them an opportunity because you refuse to use your brain?

So to all my gay friends and the gay people I haven’t met, can any of you tell me from which planet you are from… Or how is it that you are not normal?  (also some fashion and success tips will be welcome)

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The opportunity is here! Now what? http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/the-opportunity-is-here-now-what/ Fri, 05 Dec 2014 02:03:43 +0000 http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/?p=710 #followform { padding-top:5px; text-align:left; }

Have you ever find your self day dreaming of doing something different with your life? Maybe changing your career, traveling the world, loosing weight, becoming and artist, etc. I am sure the answer is yes! come on! we all have … Continue reading

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bookHave you ever find your self day dreaming of doing something different with your life? Maybe changing your career, traveling the world, loosing weight, becoming and artist, etc.

I am sure the answer is yes! come on! we all have wish to do something different, no matter if you have a fulfilling career, then you dream with having more time, if you are in shape you want to do something else.   Now here is the difference between the minority that dream and go after it, and the rest of the people, to whom I would refer as “Us”.

This year is about to end, and the season for new goals is started. Things like loosing weight, that usually starts right after the holidays, when most of “Us” will gain more weight because there is this part of us that feels entitled to eat everything that you’ve struggle during the year to resist, and on top of that, since it is something that just happens once a year we just let go of any restrain and eat until we hate our selves! I already did this on Thanksgiving, I really enjoyed the food, but that just added to the weight I was already struggling to loose.

Now I am at a different cross road in my life.  I am soon to become an empty nester, and if you’ve read about me, you should know that I am a “teen Mom”.  I had My son when I was 17, so as someone so clearly pointed out, we’ve grown up together.  I know letting your kids go, is difficult, but letting go of everything you’ve ever known is terrifying.

I’ve always wanted to be a full time writer, but I had other responsibilities, like feeding the kid and dressing him and making sure that he has a roof… You know, things like that.  I have been lucky! very lucky, that no matter how difficult things were, there was always a miracle around the corner waiting for us.   But what about now? He is off to start his adult life, and sure he will still need help, but won’t need me to drive him around (we just have my car), or thinking of every daily meal (3 times a day, at least).

I am in a moment that I am fighting my inner demons, my fears, my insecurities.  I have a book that I’ve been holding on for a while, I’ve been working on it for years, but I can’t bring my self to finish it, and even less, to publish it.

So here I am, in a point of my life that I can finally go after my dream, no more self impose excuses and I don’t know what to do.

It’s amazing how we can limit ourselves and find a perfect excuse each and every time, how it is easier to just blame it on the moment, on lack of resources, on there is always a tomorrow.

Would you be ok just not going for what you want most, for that dream, that has probably hunt you since you were little?

I know I wouldn’t, I would not be able to forgive me, to grew old, and haven’t even try.  But here I am, finding other things that have to be done before, I mean, the house isn’t going to clean by it self, or clothes, gosh! those really need my attention, to put them in the washer, then dryer and off course folding, and by the time all that is done, I will be tired, is time for dinner, plan my day tomorrow and hope that I might make it back to my book.

I have the opportunity to go after my dream, and now what?

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Today is the right day to find love! http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/today-right-day-find-love/ Wed, 02 Apr 2014 04:29:18 +0000 http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/?p=669 #followform { padding-top:5px; text-align:left; }

Most of us spend our lives looking for someone to share it with. Some have been fortunate to find their true love at an early age, but others chose the person that was right for that moment, but not for … Continue reading

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http://www.cupidoparamayores.comMost of us spend our lives looking for someone to share it with. Some have been fortunate to find their true love at an early age, but others chose the person that was right for that moment, but not for the rest of their lives. Then they have to start again at age 45, 50, 55, 60! Maybe even older and its difficult! Some older people are getting into online dating. There is a new site called Cupido para Mayores (www.cupidoparamayores), that is making a statement in the very short time that’s been out.

We all deep down wish to find that special someone that is going to sweep us off our feet! Come on! You know you do (This is for the people that don’t have their “love” already in their life)

The problem is that we spend so much time trying to make things perfect for when we find the person that we let opportunity after opportunity go by.  For example, what if you live in North America, but you don’t speak English? I have plenty of older friends that are single, are awesome people, but don’t speak English, and they keep on waiting until they learn the language, instead of being proactive and join a site like Cupido Para Mayores (www.cupidoparamayores), it is in spanish and it was design with people like them in mind.

We all keep on saying we want to be happy, have a special person next to us. Someone that we can spend the rest of our lives with.  Someone that we could be who we are, and not have to pretend to be something to keep someone happy.

When do you want to be happy?  Do you really think that you will find the perfect moment, when everything will fall in the place you want it to be, and then and only then, you will look, or be proactive towards finding love?

Remember, sometimes you have to kiss a couple of frogs before you find your prince.

So if you asked me.  There isn’t a better day than today to find love.

I am so glad I have my Raja next to me.  I seriously can’t think of my life without him.

It sure feels great to be with someone that loves you exactly for who you are.

So all of you procrastinators! go out TODAY AND FIND LOVE!

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Do Dreams Expire? http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/do-dreams-expire/ Thu, 27 Mar 2014 04:50:44 +0000 http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/?p=654 #followform { padding-top:5px; text-align:left; }

Do Dreams Expire?  Is there an expiration date on your dreams? I mean, do you have to give up after you reach a certain age? Most people will say yes! Until they see someone  their age or older accomplishing what … Continue reading

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having an expiration date on your dreamsDo Dreams Expire?

 Is there an expiration date on your dreams? I mean, do you have to give up after you reach a certain age?

Most people will say yes! Until they see someone  their age or older accomplishing what they deemed impossible.

We are in a time that everything is fast paced and we are already used to have instant everything!

Instant messages, (Anyone remembers waiting for a letter? Like actually stocking the poor mailman?) Instant downloads, instant everything! So, when you look at how little patience we have, then it makes sense to give up on what we want if it doesn’t happen in the time we “expected” to happen.

For example, Have you ever wonder how it would be like to travel the world? Maybe you make this your dream, do you set a date for it? Something like “by the time I am X years I want to have traveled the France, Italy, England, etc”. But then life happens, years go by, and that X date comes and goes, and you still have not been in any of the places you had in your plans.

Do you give up? Or you keep on having this desire to accomplish it?

I used to say that I want to be retired by age 45. I can’t help but to wonder what I’ll do if 45 comes and I am still working, and I don’t mean working as “I love what I do, so I do it because it makes me happy”.  I’ve been thru so many “unexpected experiences,” that by know my biggest lesson is that I really don’t have as much control over anything as I used to believe.

My aunt used to say, “Make plans so the Gods can laugh” and I used to think it was the silliest thing in the world, until life gave me a lesson (several times so far) about what that sentence really means.

I’ve also been learning how you should dream, and how dreams come true. Based on my experiences I can tell you that when you really want something with your heart (and this is something positive for you, and the people around you) it will happen. It will happen on the most unexpected moments, from the most unexpected sources, but it will happen.

So, this brings me to the subject of Having an expiration date on your dreams.  I don’t think I need to point out the obvious.  You just need to look around you and you’ll find dreams becoming true all the time. You can call it miracles, Synchronicity, etc. But you’ve seen them.

Some people dream big, others little but we all dream.  It is related with what matters to you.  Some people dream with having enough money to pay the bills every month without having to worry, others dream with a new yacht!

Main thing in life is to dream! Big or small but dream, and mostly don’t give up.

One of the biggest things I would love to pass along is that things that are meant to happen, do happen, not when we want to, but when they are meant to be.

Don’t set expiration dates on things that matter, your dreams matter! So don’t give up!

Work towards things that make your heart beat faster and set a smile on your face, and things will work out!

Just remember to be who you are!

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Should I pay for College the rest of my life? http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/do-i-really-need-to-go-to-college-and-then-pay-for-it-the-rest-of-my-life/ Wed, 19 Feb 2014 23:30:27 +0000 http://www.daretobewhoyouare.com/?p=590 #followform { padding-top:5px; text-align:left; }

  Being the mother of a soon to be high school graduate, facing the reality of the cost of having a good education (and everything else that comes with it, like boarding, books, etc.),  I have asked my self, my … Continue reading

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Being the mother of a soon to be high school graduate, facing the reality of the cost of having a good education (and everything else that comes with it, like boarding, books, etc.),  I have asked my self, my friends and family, and asked him this a good couple of times. Do you really need to go to college, to then have to pay for what ever you study the rest of your life?

A former neighbor was a doctor, as well as his wife.  They had 4 kids, and their biggest expense was to repay for their education.

Both of them were (are) extremely smart people, both worked full time (and a bit more), had all 4 kids on public schools, went shopping only when it was a good sale, and they even utilized coupons.

I remember one day we were joking about jobs, and how much you were getting paid, and we came to the cost of education.

It was funny that you will expect that after investing $250k, to start with you had to do a ton of specializations, that cost an arm an a leg, and even after that you couldn’t be sure you were making enough to even repay the loan you were taking to “get a better future”.

Both of them kept on saying that the most they were going to pay for their kids was undergrad, and even then, their kids had to find at least a part time to help out.  It doesn’t make sense to start your life in negative!

You see all this kids that are not even sure what they want to do with their life’s, that have a thousand dreams, that believe they can change the world in a day, that see everything so easy.

And then reality kind of sets.

1- You need to go to a good school! The only issue with a good school is that usually they are not on the cheap side, and their acceptance rate sounds more like a joke.  And even with scholarships, you will need to have a good couple of thousands just to survive, meaning: place to live, books, food, clothes, etc.  And yes, we parents will help! the problem is that the way things are, there is no guarantee for anyone in any job, and most people live check by check. So you can choose to pay for your kids education or have a retirement fund.

2- Books are expensive! It’s funny how some books are worth hundreds of dollars.  And then during the semester you open them just a couple of times.  But you still need them.

3- Eating well is not cheap! we are a family that we are very health conscious, I try to feed them the best I can, that is how I know that good quality food is not cheap.  Usually there are no coupons for healthy stuff, getting fresh veggies require to do several trips to the store during a month, and since the food doesn’t have chemicals (preservatives and that kind of stuff) it doesn’t last that long.  So here we send our kids to school, on a budget for everything, and what can they eat? junk! That in the long run they will have to pay for too, since all the bad things you do to your body will eventually come up, whether is in the form of cholesterol, diabetes, hormonal disorders, Cardiovascular issues, etc.

4- Dealing with stress! let’s face it, most of our kids are going to graduate from high school with stress about how much work they had, having just experience College applications (and hopefully acceptance), making one of most important life decisions (choosing what to study).  And then have even more work from the clases they start to take, having to figure out what to eat every single meal (no more Mom, Dad, Grandma to make any of the meals), dealing with being sick and alone for the first time in their life!

5- How to afford it! This is huge! we are working towards a good scholarship, sponsor, etc. and there are options that is the positive thing, but what if you don’t get any of them? You need to go with a loan. And this my friends is the part that really sucks! You are starting your life with a huge debt that you have to pay, no matter what! Some of this debt will be for more than if you bought a house, what will actually give you some trouble to buy a house.  In the way the job market is, well is concerning to say the least.

How many kids are we seeing graduate, put four years (at least if they don’t go for a masters, doctorate, etc) off a lot of work and sacrifice, to end up doing a blue collar kind of job, that the only requirement (if any, is having a high school diploma or GED).

If they don’t act quickly, then in no time they are “outdated” in their field, and until further education is achieved, they are stuck where they are.

College is an experience that everyone should have.  Is that last step into becoming an independent person, is that moment that you are forced to fly by your self.  But it isn’t fair to start your flying lessons with a bandaid on your wing.

If you are in the process of looking for college, look for options to support your self.

There are options for you to have your own business.

If you are interested in a way to pay your way to college go to

www.ditchthecan.com/queenlatina

www.tiralalata.com if you speak spanish.

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