The connection between options, decisions and happiness

FunnySalesCartoonsmortgageloan.gif?width=720&height=485There was a study I read a while back, that basically said that people with less options are happier.  They spend more time enjoying what they have instead of thinking about what they are missing.

But if you don’t dream… Then what would you look for? But at the same time, aren’t we all looking for stability? And in a way, being stable will bring some monotony, so it will be in a way like having to think of less options.

The biggest issue in our current society is the attachment to everything that has to do with money.

We connect each and every little decision in our life with money.  The diet we have its directly related to what we can afford, what we wear, where we live, the people we spend time with, and sometimes even what we dream.

Don’t get me wrong, I know how important money is, but then you come across the stories of people that live with almost nothing, and surprisingly enough, they  look happy! VERY Happy!

I am sure your reaction will range from: “Yeah, right! Sure they are!” or “Could I be able to do something like that?”

I personally know people that have changed their life from having all kinds of luxuries, to living with the bare minimal. And they say (and look) much happier.

I have wondered if I could do something like that.  I freed my life from a lot of material things I didn’t need (and still have plenty more to go), and the truth is… I do feel better! If I look back, I was holding to so many things that I didn’t need, just for the sentimental value, because whomever gave it to me might feel offended if decided to give it away, because who knows! I might need it (It doesn’t matter that I haven’t touch it in years, as soon as I let it go I will need it, right?), and the excuses could go and go and go. At the end we will have a house way bigger than we need, filled to the top with things that we really don’t have a use for.

Yesterday I read a story (might not be real, but it touched my heart) about an taxi driver that had as a passenger an elderly lady that asked him to help her with her single bag, when he asked her where to take her, she was going to an assisted living facility. This was her last “independent” ride. She wanted to go see all the places from her past, the place where she had worked most of her life, all the places she used to spend time with friends and loved ones.

At the end she just walked into this place, that was going to become her last place, with only a bag.  Doesn’t it make you wonder if you will regret the decisions you are taking now? If by having so many options, you can’t actually concentrate on the ones that should matter? So, is there be a connection between options, decisions and happiness?

At the end we won’t need 85% of the things WE THINK are necessary, the job we dedicate all of our energy (and life) will continue to exist without you, they might even replace you after 20 years for someone that has less experience but will earn half of what you make, or it will be outsourced. Then what?

For some people loosing a job, a relationship, a property, etc. is the best that could happen to them.  I know that the moment when this things are happening does not feel that way, but sometimes just by having your world come down, you are able to rebuild it the right way.

When you have no other option, you decide what you really wanted all along.

I understand the security that a regular paycheck brings, but at the same time I know the love I have for my time, for being able to take care of my family, for having the flexibility to choose and to say no when something just doesn’t feel right.

I’ve been in both sides of the coin. At some point I was an employee, and yes, it’s nice to know with how much money you count each month, to be able to create your budget, and organize your life.  But this also means you are setting a limit! That is what you make and that’s it.

Your life depends on what’s best for your boss, for their company.  You are working to make their dreams come true. To end up with your life in a bag and the memories of a day blending into the next?

I constantly think if I could be one of those people that can just move into a tree house, or live mainly from “the land”. But my comfortable side loves to go to the supermarket, sleep in whenever possible, have a car and all the other “luxuries” we are used to.

That is why I decide to have different activities that generate money, and keep my life.

I deal with the stress of being my boss, but I also enjoy what comes with it.

So make the decision that makes your heart be faster.

 

About Juanita

I was born in South America, and moved to North America when I was in my late teens. I had a kid and needed to be able to support him on my own, so like most immigrants I ran after the american dream. I love and try to keep most of my latin traditions, mainly the old school things and values. I'm on my 30's, I am a Mom & I love every second of it (yes even when I feel like I want to run away before I kill him). I love to cook and bake. But keeping my family healthy is a must! Like most women I Love chocolates also reading, working and anything that helps me be a better person. I am always working on improving who I am, I am thankful for all my experiences (good, bad and ugly), because of them I am the person I am today! I lack any coordination, have a "special" sense of humor So, yes I could be a lot of fun, most of the time I will keep people around me, very much amused (and my body with new bruises) I belong to the club of "I don't fall, I do random gravity checks", I am also constantly attacked by furniture! Those things are secret ninjas! Some day someone else will see it too! I am just another person fighting to be who I am, and hoping to get more to join my path! Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” - Bernard M. Baruch
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